We, at Bender Law Offices, PC, have had many years of experience with children and divorcing parents. While we believe that every situation is different and the needs of each child are unique, we, also, recognize that most parents love and care about their children and do not want to see them hurt by the separation which is happening to their parents. We believe that it should be the goal of each parent to help their children grow up to be physically, emotionally, and intellectually successful adults. However, as attorneys, we hold no special expertise in knowing what is best for your child.

In order to help you decide what is best for your children, we ask our clients to complete a Custody History and review Custody Questions. Also enclosed are some mediation guidelines that we hope will help you successfully mediate your custody situation.

Included for your review as possible guidelines for your actions during this difficult time are two documents which were provided to us as samples of appropriate behavior in separation and divorce actions involving children. These documents are neither the law nor requirements of this office. They are, however, suggestions of conduct that could help foster a loving and caring relationship between your children, yourself, and your child's other parent.

"Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them."--James Baldwin

"What's done to children, they will do to society."-- O. A. Battista

"Live so that when your children think of fairness and integrity, They think of you."-- H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

"Our children are not going to be just “our children”—they are going to be other people's husbands and wives and the parents of our grandchildren." -- Mary Steichen Calderone